|THE COUNSELING CONNECTION
FOR ADULTS, KIDS AND FAMILIES
PRAIRIE VILLAGE, KANSAS 66207
|Good Books Recommended for Parents:
Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline by Becky Bailey, PhD
I Love You Rituals by Becky Bailey, PhD
Attachment Focused Parenting by Daniel A. Hughes
Brain Based Parenting by Daniel A. Hughes and Jonathan Baylin
The Science of Parenting by Margot Sunderland
Parenting From the Inside Out by Daniel Siegel,M.D. & Mary Hartzell, M.Ed.
...that your child will remember more of what you DO rather than what you SAY?
...that giving your child choices will teach him responsibility and increase her self esteem?
...that parenting with heart will keep the lines of communication open with your child?
...that if you change how you treat yourself, you will naturally change how you treat your children?
...that playing with your child is a great way to 'connect' with him and understand him better?
You'll be amazed at what you will learn!
...that what you focus on you get more of?
ENJOY YOUR CHILD!!
Most parents wonder what will be expected of them if they bring their child to therapy, and are encouraged to know
that they are an integral part of their child's therapy. Your child is with you most
of the time, and only with me a few times each month. I depend on your observations, communications as
to how things are going at home between visits, and how your child is responding to you and others after
the therapy sessions.
It is important for me to fully understand what has been occurring at home/school with your child
before I meet them for the first time. So the very first session is always with the parent(s), so I
can look over the paperwork, ask questions, get to know what has been tried prior to therapy, and how
your child responded to those interventions and changes. I also will ask how you are dealing emotionally
with what is going on, to determine how best to help you, as well as your child.
When your child is brought to their first session, depending on how old they are, you may be asked to
stay in the session. I typically will ask the child if they would like their parent to stay in the room or
wait in the waiting room. One of the goals of child therapy is to improve your emotional connection with your child,
and part of building trust and credibility is to make your child feels as comfortable around
me as possible. Not all sessions will include you, but you will definitely be a part of your child's
treatment plan and kept up to date as to your child's progress as the therapy continues.
Learning how to play with and understand your child on a deeper level is not only one of the benefits of therapy, but
a delightful experience for both you and your child. If there are sibling concerns, brothers and/or sisters will be
asked to attend from time to time so everyone can learn how to communicate better, and learn about boundaries and
Parents love being involved in the sessions, and look forward to the next invitation. They notice that the challenging
behaviors are diminishing and things at home are running more smoothly. In general, family life is more rewarding
and all members are happier.
Increasing connection with your child and understanding them better is only one of the benefits of therapy.
Parents also report that they are more relaxed and confident about their parenting, and enjoy their child more
Some parents choose to come at a separate time and work on their own parenting issues. The more we understand
ourselves, the better parent we can be.
|"I tried to teach my child with books,
he gave me only puzzled looks.
"I tried to teach my child with words,
they passed him by unheard.
"In despair I turned aside,
'How will I teach my child?',
"Into my hand he put the key,
'Come' he said,'and play with me!' "
For personal reasons, I choose to not belong to any insurance panels, or take Medicare or Medicaid.
Because I am not under contract with any insurance companies, I have the freedom to negotiate my fee (Sliding Scale)
for those who want/need to come to therapy but feel they cannot afford it. If this is the case, please call and discuss
this with me so we can arrive at a mutually agreed upon fee that will accommodate your budget.
Money spent on mental health sessions can be added to the Medical Category on your income taxes, deducted from your
Health Saving Account or Medical Spending Account. If you choose to use your health insurance, it will be
"Out-Of-Network" and a diagnosis will be required for reimbursement.
Many parents choose to avoid a diagnosis or "label" at this stage of their child's development for the following reasons:
_ Uncertainty as to impact of diagnosis of the child in the future
_ Impact on child's self-esteem with a "label"
_ Many issues occurring with children are the challenges of "adjusting" to changes within the family or
school environment and a formal diagnosis is simply not needed. New "tools" for both child and family
can change behaviors and shift family dynamics.
FEES ARE PRIVATE PAY*
(and due at time of service)
$100.00 / 50-minute therapy session
$200.00 / 'Crisis' session outside of
business hours ( 1 1/2 hr.)
*Insurance will be Out-of-Network if
you choose to file for reimbursement
Monday - Friday 10:00-6:30